MARITAL EXPECTATIONS, this is an area that we as divorce mediators see a lot of, as well as in couple’s work. Where did expectations come from? One answer is based on IMAGO theory, where we have chosen or partner, subconsciously based on the familiarity of one of our parents. In brief, we felt this familiarity, yet we perceive that our now partner will meet the needs that our caregiver lacked in giving to us. This set the expectation. This is where many problems stem.
Source: Mediation and Counseling Blog