Should I stay or Should I go?

If You Feel Trapped In a Relationship or Marriage That’s No Longer Working and Not Sure What To Do About It…

Here’s How To Remove The Doubt, Fear, Pain and Uncertainty of The Most Important Decision You’ll Ever Make In Your Life…

“Should You Stay or Should You Go?”

Dear Friend,

We’re Dana and Don, the co-founders of The Mediation and Family Counseling Group and we’d like to ask you some VERY important questions about your relationship.

Because no one else will see or know your answers, please answer as openly and honestly as you can. Your relationship and personal happiness depends on what you do to move yourself forward –starting right now.

Here are the questions…

Are you frustrated by a relationship or marriage that’s no longer working for you AND you’re not sure what (if anything) to do about it?

ConflictWithManandWomansmAre you beginning to wonder whether this relationship is “worth it” any more?

Are you trying to figure out whether your relationship is just going through a rough patch or if it’s really over?

Have you or your partner emotionally or physically abandoned the relationship and you want to know whether you should give it one more try?

Do you feel like there is still love between the two of you but because of everything that’s happened, you’re wondering whether that is enough to keep you together?

If you said “yes” to any part of the questions above then welcome to the most important question you will ever ask yourself…

“Should YOU Stay or Should YOU Go?”

The Importance Of Making This Decision…

If you’ve read this web page so far, then we don’t have to tell you how important this decision can be.

It’s been said that your choice of a mate or partner is the single biggest factor that determines your personal happiness in life and to that we cannot disagree.

If you make the right decision about your relationship– happiness, love and peace of mind are possible.

If you make the wrong decision and it could be a decision you’ll regret for a long time, maybe forever.

We Have This Confession To Make About Relationships…

We are co-authors and Dana is a licensed Couples Therapist and in addition to spending our time helping other people create outstanding relationships, we have a truly fantastic relationship with each other.

We don’t say this to impress you, but to show you what is possible.

This is important because the truth is, just like a lot of people, we weren’t always in a great relationship.

Simply put, we both have had to live with and make the important decision of whether to stay or go in our previous marriages.

We’ve both been where you are. We know what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone you love or care about and still feel cold and empty inside.

We know what it feels like to wonder “is this all there is?”woman screaming

This is a terrible place to be in a relationship because life is just too short to be this unhappy.

When it comes to relationships, what we have discovered is that some can be saved and others just can’t (no matter how much we try).

Even though, we both made the decision to leave our previous marriages and we are very happy in our relationship now, we’ll be the first to tell you that leaving isn’t always the right decision for everyone.  Sometimes it’s best to stay and work things out. Only you can decide this.

Making the decision about whether to stay or go can be confusing, stressful and difficult.

If you’re in a relationship that isn’t working and you’re not sure what to do, we’d like you to know that there is hope for a great relationship, no matter how desperate your situation appears right now.

One of the biggest things you can do to help yourself right now is NOT to beat yourself up about what’s going on.

Please tell yourself that you’re doing the best you can and that everything is going to be fine.

There is something, however, we must tell you that almost no one ever figures out before it costs them a lot of time, energy, pain and frustration …

Why Making “No Decision” About  Your Relationship
is Almost Always The Wrong Decision…

If you’re like a lot of people (and couples), you might think that if you put off the decision of whether you want to stay in or leave your relationship, the problems you are having will somehow magically heal themselves or disappear. 

They won’t. 

If you don’t invest some quality time now in taking an honest and truthful look at the state of your relationship, you could stay stuck in this place of indecision for a very long time. restrained

It’s amazing to us how many people are stuck in “limbo” about this decision and are content to stay stuck in this place of indecision about their relationship.

So many people waste so much precious time when they could be experiencing an incredible relationship filled with love, passion and joy, either in their current relationship or one that is more of what they want.

But it’s not your fault…

We do this because very often, as we’re growing up, we’re taught to hold back, not tell people how we really feel or what’s important to us. We’re taught to NOT “rock the boat’ and to not cause trouble.

We’re also not usually taught anything about our emotions and how to deal with them that we’re aware of.

In school, we’re taught a lot of things that we may or may not ever use such as math, sciences and of course a foreign language but no class about relationships or communication is offered anywhere that we know of.

Not one.

Then, later in life, we wonder why our relationships are falling apart when we’ve done our best and can’t seem to find any easy answers.

To get started in making this decision, we encourage you to take an honest look at your situation and feel how much pain you’ve been feeling about this relationship.

If having a great relationship is important to you, you need to decide that you’re not willing to live without the love, passion, intimacy, tenderness, connection and yes, even sex any longer.

womancelebratingYou have to take the first step to create the kind of relationship and love you want in your life.

We’re not suggesting that you should leave your current relationship or marriage and head out looking for the new love of your life. That’s your decision and one that should only be made after some careful insight and thinking.

What we are telling you is that life is too short to go through it without having the love you want and the love that’s possible for all of us.

If you are in a relationship that is causing you to wonder whether you can make it work or if it would be better to leave, it’s important that you take some time now to gain clarity so that you’ll be able to ask yourself openly and honestly whether you’ll be able to heal the challenges.

The question “Should you stay or should you go?” is certainly a big decision.

It could be the biggest decision of your life. It’s the one decision you absolutely, positively want to be certain about. This is a decision you don’t want to regret later. You also don’t want to stay stuck for very long either…

Conscious Coupling is a book that can help you decide if you should stay or go!




DANA and DON, co-authors of the book “Conscious Coupling” and

co-founders of The Mediation and Family Counseling Group




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Trying To Decide Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship…

After working with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them make the best decision possible about whether to Stay or Go…

We’ve seen almost everything and we can honestly say that a couple of the biggest mistakes you could ever make when trying to make this decision are these:

1) Trying to make this decision alone


2) Putting too much stock or value in advice from well-meaning friends, co-workers, associates, family members or anyone you like and trust as you make this incredibly important and difficult decision.

If you are trying to decide whether to stay or go and you’re trying to do it alone– you should know that it’s critically important to have the genuine support of someone who’s emotionally healthy and has the skills to serve as a guide and advisor as you make one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make.

What we’ve found is this– no matter how much you want to make this decision in private, in secret or without anyone knowing about it– too much is at stake to make this decision without someone in your corner who’s not only been down this road themselves but has also helped other people like you navigate the sometimes murky waters that can come with a decision like this.

If you’re getting help and advice from your friends, family or other important people in your life about whether to stay or go–this is both good news and bad news and here’s why…

This good news is…

You have people who love or care about you enough to try to offer you the best love, guidance, support and wisdom they have to offer.

The thing to watch out for when you’re getting advice from your friends, family or other people who care about you is…

No matter how well-meaning these advice-givers in your life are and no matter how much they love you, when they are giving you advice, they are ALL coming from their own biases, prejudices, neuroses, rules for living, ways of looking at the world and history.

What this means is– no matter how well informed they are, how much they love or care about you or want to support you they are not you and don’t have the same set of rules and values as you.

They also don’t want the same things in a relationship as you.

Because of this, there is NO WAY anyone else can truly know what is the best thing for you.

They can think they know or have a good idea what you should do. But, in the end there is no way they can get behind your eyeballs and know your hopes, dreams, fears, desires, wants and expectations about what you really want for your relationship and your life.

Don remembers vividly an example of this when he was in the process of leaving his first marriage. One night a lifelong friend called him up on the phone and essentially ended the friendship because according to him “leaving a relationship wasn’t something you should ever do.”

Don’s friend went on to say that leaving “simply wasn’t right.”

Of course Don disagreed with his friend’s way of looking at the world and they were lifelong friends up until that point. 

In making this suggestion to you, please know that we’re not recommending that you shouldn’t talk to friends, family or trusted people in your life about what’s going on in your relationship or life.

Quite the contrary– we think it’s great if you want to get their advice.

Just know that it’s their advice from their point of view and in order to make the best decision possible, you have to be clear about your own values and rules for how you want your life to be and have these distinctions and differences in mind as you are sorting out all the suggestions from otherwise loving, kind and well-meaning people.


How To Eliminate Your Uncertainty

Years ago, when we were both faced with this decision in our previous relationships, we each agonized for what seemed like forever. We needed solid, unbiased help and didn’t know where to get it.

Fast forward several years later to today, and as a part of our practice, we’ve created an amazing new resource for helping you or anyone to make the best decision possible about whether to stay in or leave your relationship or marriage.

It’s our “Conscious Coupling” book that we just mentioned to you…  

“Conscious Coupling” is the book we both wish we had when we were faced with this decision many years ago, prior to getting together in our relationship.   

Conscious Coupling is a book that can help you decide if you should stay or go!


DANA and DON, co-authors of the book “Conscious Coupling” and

co-founders of The Mediation and Family Counseling Group






Why have hundreds of people found “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” to be an incredibly valuable resource to help them make this critical relationship decision?  

Here are just a few examples of what people say…


“I am so happy I purchased your book. I can not tell you how much I have learned from this. Not only about my relationship but my life. It has been a real gem to have this.

“Discovering the truth about what I am really feeling inside about this relationship has been so exciting! No more denying, keeping it inside, nor feeling guilty about what I feel.

“This has helped me in so many ways I can not explain it all. I really thank you. To share your wisdom and insight in such a way, is truly a gift. Thank you again.”

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“Reading ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go’ did exactly what its subtitle suggests—it raised compelling questions for me to consider not only about my current relationship but for my life. It helped me to be completely honest with the most important person in my life about my need to look into our future to see if we had the same goals.

“Reading it made me sit down and write out my future goals for myself and to discuss the collective goals of my partner and me. We will now have this to refer to in the future, as we grow together. I knew approaching my boyfriend with this book would either make him consider a future with me or run the other way.

“Whatever happened would have revealed the truth about our relationship. Approaching him with the book stirred up a lot of raw emotion and difficult discussions, but we are better for it. Thank you, Susie and Otto, for sharing the gift of your path in finding a true, loving relationship.”

Sharon from West Chester, Pennsylvania

“I’ve been reading and listening to columns and advice from Susie & Otto for over 2 years now …at a time when thinking clearly was not easy for me to do, because my wife and I were on the verge of divorce, this book gave me the tools I needed to dig deep down inside myself and ask myself questions I wouldn’t have otherwise been able to at that time.

“Although my wife and I decided to go our separate ways… this book is an ongoing relationship tool that will always help me evaluate myself and what I am offering and/or getting out of a relationship. Thank you Susie & Otto for helping me make this difficult decision.”

Curt Williams from Calgary, Alberta

What Is “Conscious Coupling?” and What’s In It?

Yes, “Conscious Coupling” is a book that has was meant as a guide to couples to help them determine if the relationship they are in is a great one or not.

When we wrote this book, we wanted to give you and anyone else who could benefit from our insights the information we wish we had when we each faced this decision prior to getting together in our relationship many years ago.

Quite simply, when we both needed a resource like this one– nothing like it existed. That’s why we created it. We set out to provide a much needed resource that will help you (and anyone else who needs it) gain the clarity you need to make the best decision possible at this critical time in your life.

The “Conscious Coupling” book is not just a book you read. It is a reference guide. Something you continue to refer back to.

If you’re looking for some relationship expert or guru to tell you what you should do, then this book isn’t for you. It is meant as a tool to help you decide what is right for you.

In this book we take you through a powerful process of discovery about yourself, your partner and your relationship. By going through this process, the decision about what’s best for you actually reveals itself to you.

This process asks you to take a thorough, heartfelt examination of your relationship to help you clarify your next steps–whether those steps are to formulate ways to make the relationship better or to devise a plan to leave the relationship with grace.

With the information you’ll hear on the audio from the teleseminar, you’ll gain a new understanding of some of the most important things you need to consider when deciding whether to stay in or leave a relationship.

On this audio, we’ll give you detailed answers and insights about these 10 things and because of the information we’ll share, you’ll be able to make a more conscious, clearer decision that is better for you.

We’ll also give you some ways to think about your relationships that you may not have considered before.

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